Comments on: How I Am Sabotaging My Parents’ Attempt at Finding Me a Wife

By: AnonyMouse

AnonyMouse — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 14:56:59 +0000

Hey, I’m single… and an atheist. Not Indian, though. LOL

Seriously, good luck! It’d be nice if we could please our parents with our spouses, but I doubt that I’m going to fare very well in this regard.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 02:21:34 +0000

Hemant,

You are young. Good for you in standing up to your parents. Try it (love) the American way. If that doesn’t work, who knows, your parents might find you a good atheist Indian girl!!!

By: Robin

Robin — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 01:46:56 +0000

I don’t quite understand how any atheist could have shared values with someone who believes in supernatural woo of one sort or another. People who lack a naturalistic worldview make very different decisions about life than people who have.

Well, one of the values both atheistic ol’ me and my theistic Significant Other share is the respect for those who believe differently from ourselves. He’s told me that my atheism has made him a better Catholic, and I know his Catholicism has made me a better atheist. We keep each other honest.

He’s convinced me that all Christians aren’t fundamentalist loons (I’ve had my doubts about that), and I’ve convinced him that Mother Theresa was a wretched excuse for a human being. He’s convinced me that there are some atheists who really are unrealistically bigoted against Christians, and I’ve gotten both him and his family to loosen up and accept the fact that athiests don’t want (or need) what their Saviour offers.

By: Jen

Jen — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 04:41:11 +0000

My parents could care less about me getting married. They are after me to save, save, save and pay back my student loans

By: Julie

Julie — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 02:02:02 +0000

Kathryn, you said it!!!! The families are the issue.

Hemant, just do what I did and wait until your late 30s to get married. By that time your parents will be so overjoyed and relieved they’ll accept ANYone!

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 01:56:57 +0000

My Shakespeare prof and his wife are from India, and they don’t attend church. or anything. They’re good people. Have find babies.

By: Kathryn

Kathryn — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 23:14:16 +0000

Oh, I can’t wait to have these types of convos with my parents. On the other hand, I would definitely want to marry an atheist or at least an agnostic. Religious people on their own are fine, but their families… ugh.

By: TXatheist

TXatheist — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 18:59:10 +0000

Edwin,
With regards to most values it’s about the science. My wife who believes in some type of god has no problem with me teaching science or values. One of the values I have learned from my believing wife is not to ridicule theistic beliefs while around my son. Example of me talking to my son : Jesus is a man who came to help the poor and tried to make very good moral precepts while on earth. Christians believe he is the messiah and part of the Trinity(less a few sects). Example of me talking among other atheists or when my son is old enough to debate/discuss : Jesus is a fictional character conjured up by ancient men from earlier messiah ideas and who was supposedly noble. Some people think he died on a cross and then later somehow floated off after being dead 3 days. My wife is not the type to say god created the world and man but will reinforce science. She can distinguish between religion and science.

By: Josha

Josha — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 17:19:05 +0000

This weekend my mom was asking me if I was dating anybody.
I said no but that I had met a few nice guys at a freethinkers meeting.
She responds, “So, I guess they are atheists too?”
“Yes”
And a disappointed “Oh” from her.

By: Edwin

Edwin — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 17:07:59 +0000

I don’t quite understand how any atheist could have shared values with someone who believes in supernatural woo of one sort or another. People who lack a naturalistic worldview make very different decisions about life than people who have.